Pitfall

Ways to keep your woman: Show her you're sorry

When I first got married to my wife three years ago, I started having second thoughts about our marriage and feeling as though we had tied the knot a little too quickly. I started wondering if there were ways to keep your woman while having some fun on the side but just the thought of that felt wrong. Obviously I did not tell her about this because I didn't want to freak her out, but I was having an inward battle with myself. Since I was young and hadn't been with a lot of women, I felt as though I had made a huge mistake getting married. A few months later, my boss asked me to go to a sales meeting in Nelson with my coworker, and I ended up having sex with her that night. After having cheated on my wife, I felt awful, stupid, and cheap. The worst part about it was that my wife was everything that I wanted, and after cheating on her I knew that sleeping with other women really wasn't all that great compared to sleeping with the person you love. I didn't want to come clean about the cheating because I wanted to keep my woman but I knew that I had to tell her because I didn't want our marriage to be a lie. When I got home from Nelson, I told my wife about everything, and surprisingly enough she understood me.

Fix your relationship after cheating: Treat her better

After coming clean about cheating, I started trying to fix our relationship. To do this I knew that I had to start treating her better, so I made it a point to take her out on a date every week and keep the romance alive. If you're going through a similar situation, just know that there are ways to fix your relationship after cheating. As long as your partner is willing to give you another chance, there is no reason why you shouldn't be able to prove to them that you will be faithful for the remainder of yours days together.

Ask her to go to couple's counselling

Although the thought of attending couples counseling sessions makes me want to roll my eyes, I knew that regaining my wife's trust should be my main priority, so I booked us a couple sessions. Couple's counseling was actually a lot less lame than I had believed, and the counselor really helped my wife express her feelings.

Make sure you're serious about never cheating again

If you're going to come clean about cheating and try to make your relationship work, you need to be serious about never ever cheating again. Since your loved one gave you another chance, you need to show them that you value that above anything else. If you aren't serious about never cheating again, get a divorce.

Show her she can trust you again

If you want to keep your woman after having had an affair you need to show her that she can trust you. Since a healthy relationship is built on trust, you need to make this your mission. To show her she can trust you, try calling her on your breaks at work, spending your extra time with her, and chatting with her online while you're on business trips