Pitfall

She Cheated!

She cheated on you! Oh, boy… You never really know what a Sudbury gal is capable of. I was living in Sudbury for a time, and I met a beautiful girl there named Lucy. We spent several happy months together, riding boats, making wooden furniture, and doing all sorts of other stuff. Lucy seemed so innocent, and she seemed to love me so much, I never thought that she could be capable of something as dark as having an affair. However, lo and behold, I once caught her having sex with a Sudbury fisherman on our own bed, the one that we built ourselves out of pine wood! Needless to say, I left her right away. I didn't have it in me to stick around and try to give her another chance. Sometimes I regret that, but I'm now living with an amazing woman that I think I want to spend the rest of my life with. If you were recently cheated on, and you're thinking of sticking around in the relationship, I might have some insight to offer that could possibly be very useful.

Has She Cheated Before?

Has your girlfriend cheated on you before this incident? From what I've heard, cheaters are usually grouped into two categories: one-time cheaters, and serial cheaters. As the name implies, a one-time cheater will only cheat once (or possibly twice) in their lives, during a time of great personal weakness. After cheating, they are overwhelmed with guilt, and they may eventually confess their deed to their partner. On the other hand, serial cheaters feel no guilt during the act of infidelity. They simply want what they want, and they sleep with whoever they can despite the fact that they're in a committed relationship.

Will She Cheat Again?

If your girl is a one-time cheater, chances are that she won't cheat on you again. However, if she's a serial cheater, all bets are off. For the most part, serial cheaters don't change — they just try to have all the sex that they can get outside of the relationship. However, even serial cheaters can change their ways if they love the person they're with enough. Does your partner truly love you? More important, ask yourself the following question:

Do You Still Love Her?

Do you still love her? Is your girlfriend still the love of your life? If she is, then you already know the answer on whether or not to forgive her for cheating. You owe it to her and yourself to give forgiveness a chance. She might just prove herself to you, and change her cheating ways.

Is the Relationship Worth it?

Is this relationship worth saving? Well, it comes down to two things: how much she loves you, and how much you love her. If the love is true on both ends, then you have a beautiful thing going on, and that little spark of infidelity might have been just a one-time incident. I don't really know — you're the only one who is fully familiar with your relationship. Make sure the communication lines between you and your girlfriend are open, and establish the importance of being completely truthful to one another. Eventually, you might be able to get past this hiccup and live a healthy, loving life together. Just believe that it's possible, because it is.